How are you at receiving criticism? Do you prefer that others treat you with kid gloves, or go for brutal honesty?
I recalled watching the audition segment of American Idol and also the local version called Singapore Idol on TV. Some participants who said they had been singing for many years with friends and family fully supporting them, could not sing in tune. One of the Singapore judges said to one of them, “I see you can sing,” and the singer began to smile and the judge continued, “like a crow!” I saw the expression of that singer changed like lightning from sunshine to rain. Perhaps he never expected the truth to be so harsh or that it wasn’t the truth but an injustice done to him.
When I reflect on this, I realised I was afraid of being blind to my own flaws or weaknesses that when criticised, I would be shocked and broken. Yet, I long to grow and learn in life and what better way than to have someone help you see your blind spots to point it out so you can improve or take caution.
So yes, criticisms with good intentions to build one another, are welcome. Criticisms with brutality and tactlessness, no thank you.